One morning after class, I was standing and talking with another mom whose son was competing with mine for most-hyper-and-destructive on the playground. After jetting to the other side of the jungle gym to save her kid from an untimely death leap off of the side, she locked eyes with me and exclaimed:
"I am a tired mama."
I couldn't help but laugh, because I knew the depths of what she meant when she said that so very well myself. But at the same time, my heart ached for her, knowing what a lonely burden the exhaustion of motherhood can be to carry.
We all joke around about how caffeine and wine get us through the day, but underneath the laughter there is a silent cry of helplessness. Sometimes when I'm asked how I find the strength to mother I want to reply, "I don't" because it's the truth. I have days where I sit on my kitchen floor in a puddle of salty tears and chocolate chips. There are evenings where I countdown the minutes to bedtime like a kid waiting for that end-of-the-day ring of the school bell. I'll never pretend like I have it all together because two years into parenting I still have no idea what I'm doing half of the time.
But that's okay.
It's okay to be a tired mama and it's also okay to talk about it. The beauty of this tribe of motherhood is that we don't ever have to be alone. We don't have to hide our swollen, tired eyes underneath sunglasses or our hard days under forced smiles. Because here, among fellow mamas, we are safe.
YOU are safe.
Safe to talk about your anxiety, your stress, your shortcomings. Safe to talk about the moments where you feel emotionally and physically drained by parenting. Safe to strip down the thick layer of armor and be unapologetically real about mommyhood.
Are you a tired mama?
The truth of the matter is, we all are at one point or another. So let's embrace the exhaustion and together we can find the strength and energy to mother even on the toughest days. They say it takes a village because it really, truly does. Let this village help take care of you so that you can take better care of your little ones.
Alone we may be overwhelmed, but together we are overwhelmingly powerful.